Oh, how I love negative feeling, what could be more insightful, right?
Knowing the effect that negative feelings have on my life, I used to get frustrated every time I felt somehow bad. It was a sign of weakness, I thought. How could I not control my emotions?
So I tried to control it, every single emotion, just like if I was a robot. Of course, I failed. Simply because emotions are not meant to be controlled; that is not the purpose they serve. We cannot control our emotions, and even if we could, it would defeat its purpose.
The way we feel is an indicator on how aligned we are in relation to our desires. The better we feel, the stronger is the connection between our current path and the path we have envisioned for ourselves.
Negative feelings (frustration, overwhelming, fear) are nothing more than indicators that our current way of action is not in alignment we our life purpose. Negative feelings are the alarm that lets us know that we are doing something wrong, we have lost our way; a reminder that we have to stop and think about what we are doing and where we want to go.
And as the alarm they are, we must be thankful for them.
To get mad at ourselves, or at our feelings, because we feel fear or overwhelming, it’s like getting mad at the fire alarm because it interrupts our sleep.
The next time you find yourself unable to shake out a negative feeling, meditate about what it means and what changes in your life would make this feeling disappear. Chances are these changes are vital to your growth and your over-all happiness.
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This sums up my week perfectly.
What an AMAZING, AMAZING post. Woow I am taken by your words. How amazing. Deeply insightful and truthful. Thank you so much for sharing
Thank you for following TOWWIOW. I wanted to deliver on my pledge and return the favor. In reading this post, and seeing what the summation of all your posts are geared towards. I wanted to play Devil’s Advocate (although I truly detest this role) and try to get some more engagement going on here for you.
Have you ever heard of an author named David Rakoff? http://www.amazon.com/Half-Empty-David-Rakoff/dp/B00AZ83INS/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1416707108&sr=8-3&keywords=glass+half+empty
He has a few books, but this one HOW I WAS INTRODUCED TO IT, is about what good can come from being negative. Again, that was just how I was introduced to this book but I have never read a page from it. It’s interesting to think about though, what good can come from negativity, and I feel like your post touches on that topic.
Look forward to seeing more, Good Vader.
Best,
Dominic Jones
I mostly agree! Mr.Spock was awesome, wasn’t he? So logical and analytical…then he has that breakdown and starts crying…that was all kind of weird. (Yes, I liked 1960’s Star Trek!) Point is, emotions are natural and shouldn’t be repressed but one should, as you say, mediate on the cause of negative emotions and look for changes to get on the positive path…but with this caveat: emotional reactions to external situations need a lot of self-truth and objective evaluation. It may not call for a change of circumstances. Negative feelings have all sorts of causes, some with roots back to a bad experience at age 5 triggered by something today and some can even be hormonal. Fear is a big one needing rationalization. Maybe healing can be a more permanent fix than choosing external change as a way to make a negative emotion disappear. Years ago I met a Saami shaman who said when you say yes when you mean no, you are taken further off the path of your purpose. It’s hard to stay the course, if even you know what it is! But there will always be obstacles and challenges along that path that, I think, are meant for our growth and an obstacle such as negative feelings may call for internal changes, especially if its reoccurring. If you meant internal changes all along, sorry for the long diatribe! Thanks for your insight!
Thank you Julio for dropping by my blog and helping me discover your wonderful thoughts! It makes ample sense to me – we must make an attempt to get at the root of what is causing the negative emotion. No amount of ignoring or suppressing it is going to help, as it will erupt again and again with greater force every time!
It’s true, feelings offer information relating to our vlaues and beliefs. Not perfect information, but worth some attention.
“To get mad at ourselves, or at our feelings, because we feel fear or overwhelming, it’s like getting mad at the fire alarm because it interrupts our sleep.”
Bull’s eye there. 🙂 Thank you!
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Sometimes emotions arise out of circumstances beyond our control: a loved one dies, our car gets totaled because of another driver’s foolishness, we’re let go from our job because of downsizing, etc. At those times especially, I find my faith in God to be a comfort and source of strength. And you’re right: we should be thankful for the negative feelings that come with difficulty. It’s under pressure that our faith-life grows most rapidly, and we become mature, lacking in nothing (James 1:2-4).
P.S. Thank you, Julio, for becoming a follower of my blog. I pray you’ll find the posts meaningful.
Very true and timely, thank you!
I absolutely agree with what you said, “The way we feel is an indicator on how aligned we are in relation to our desires. The better we feel, the stronger is the connection between our current path and the path we have envision for ourselves.
Negative feelings (frustration, overwhelming, fear) are nothing more than indicators that our current way of action is not in align we our life purpose.”
Thanks for putting it into words!
A few years ago I concluded my negative feelings were signs I was off track. It was a truly amazing feeling to be able to use mediation and reflection to observe the feeling as if from the outside looking in. Thanks for the reminder, these are great words of wisdom!
I am glad you liked it. Thank you for sharing.
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