Just like learning to walk, when we are starting with something new, we are terrible at it. We should not expect otherwise. The tales of natural extraordinary talent are great for the movies, but don’t expect to play Moonlight Sonata on your first sit in front of a piano. Improvement requires commitment, in order to get better we must be willing to make an out of ordinary effort. That is the whole point of getting better: Acquiring an extraordinary abilities. Otherwise, everybody will be an expert about everything. How boring would that be? Do you imagine the dinner conversations?
On Personal Development
This might sound obvious, but we often forget it when dealing with self-improvement and personal development. We decide to tackle a new habit that seems it could improve our life, but when we fail during the first try we conclude “it’s just not our thing”, or that we are not good enough and we drop it. We archive everything inside the “Failed” file and go on to another thing. The problem with this is that there are few things in life you can master, or get good enough to obtain useful results, in just a few tries. And soon the “Failed” file will start to get bulky. But the reason behind this is not that we are bad at everything, but simply that we expect instant results and immediate gratification. We commit to nothing.
Getting better at things like interpreting our emotional guidance, overcoming fears and modifying flawed beliefs, improving our emotional vibration and intention and manifestation are pretty much the same that learning to play the piano. We are going to be terrible the first 100 times we try, but if we keep trying we will eventually improve and the results will show up without a doubt.
Time [And Effort] As A Currency
Improvement requires commitment, but it is up to us to decide if the challenges we tackle are worth our time and effort. If not, then there is no reason to set that particular goal or pursue that “dream”. If you are not willing to commit yourself to long-term effort, then it might be just something you find interesting, but not a dream.
So the next time you feel like a failure, ask yourself how many times have you tried? 1? 5? 10? What makes you think that is enough?
A remember, there is no shame in failing.
Agreed. I learned how to run – it took me years, after a lifetime of being told I just wasn’t physically inclined and was no good at sports. But I did it! I just ran a little bit one day, and the next, ran a bit more.
You only fail when you quit trying again….
You are right Kate, challenges are there to make us grow! Thank you for sharing your thoughts!
Thank you for this wonderful post as always! So true about commitment for improvement and to do something well. People usually give up and then wallow in their big file of “failure” when they should keep trying if it is their passion. Great insight!
I’m glad you liked Anjali!
Hi there. You are right. “There is no shame in failing.” I heard someone else say the other day, “There is no failure. There is only learning.” If we can just have that mindset we would be a lot more successful I think. Thanks for stopping by the blog.
Enjoyed your post. I totally agree that time is a vital component of success. It seems some people want to be an expert overnight. Great post.