Wanting is a natural trait of our humanity. There is no way that we could completely suppress our inclination to desire. Even try to do so is a desire in itself.
It doesn’t matter if your object of desire is a shiny car or Nirvana, we cannot avoid to want more; more physical possession, more emotional connections, more knowledge, more power. Is irrelevant the nature of our wanting, to want is natural. It can get out of control and for this reason could be healthy to take it easy in some cases, but there is no use or benefit in trying to suppress wanting completely. It would be a futile endeavor anyway.
The problem with wanting is that we often focus on the object of our desire.
We want a loving, healthy relationship, so we focus in all the traits and characteristics that a partner must possess in order to be a candidate for the position. We want a wealthy, abundant life and we focus in all the experiences and possession that we must have or live in order to conclude that our life is as wealthy and abundant as we wanted.
We have become so good in gathering content to enrich the vision of our desires, that we have forgotten other important piece of the puzzle.
We spent too much time staring at the vision board, when we should be looking into a mirror instead.
Forget What You Want and Instead Seek to Become What You Desire
Lack of content is hardly an issue when it comes to our desires. Of course, knowing what we want is a first step to develop a path to achieving our dreams, but is just the starting point to a very long race track. In many cases there is no need to pay much attention to this aspect. We cannot avoid to want, even when we are consciously unaware.
The following paramount step in the creation of our ideal circumstances is understanding that we are the ones who must change in order to achieve our goals and make our desires a reality.
If you want a loving relationship, don’t focus so much about the characteristics that a person must have to fulfil your ideals, but about the characteristics you have or must acquire to fulfil the role of a loving partner. Are you completely aligned with this picture? Are you everything that a person as you desire could ask for? If your answer is that you will be a loving partner when somebody else show up and make you feel that way, then you are set for a long wait.
If you want a whealthy life, forget about all the experiences you are longing to have, and instead focus in evaluating if your habits and actions are those of a wealthy individual. How could I behave like a wealthy person if I live in scarcity? When I say that you must behave like a person that has already achieved your designate goal in relation to wealth, I am not talking about expenses or luxuries, but about the most common and positive personality traits that those who have achieved your desire displays.
If you want to be wealthy, think about how a wealthy person would act if suddenly wakes up with your life. Would he go out of his way to repurchase his yacht right away? Not likely. Probably would try to build the foundations for a small business first, to find connection and build relationships.
Do what a wealthy person does, in order to become wealthy. There is no way around and this is the reason why we hear and see so many stories of lottery winners why ends poorer than before. You will hardly reach your goals or make your desires reality if you don’t change the way you act first, and even in the cases when by a stroke of destiny you get around it, chances are that if you behave the same way than before, you will find yourself in the same old place in no time.
Less “Getting” and More “Becoming”
Our circumstances are a product of our actions (or of our vibration if you are a LOA believer), so is only logical that in order to change our circumstances, our action must change as well.
Wanting without changing is wishful thinking. So the next time you find yourself wanting something, stop and think not about the content of your desire, but about the change in your actions or thoughts that would be required in order to make your desires a reality.
True. People some times forget about present [ie. what they have in present and what they are in present] and just focus on future [ie. what they want]. Unless we are grateful for all aspects of our present life, we cannot attract more good stuff to us. Only Ask, Believe and Receive is not the pathway to manifestation of desires. It should be Ask, Believe, Let Go, Act and Receive. To manifest our desires, we need to let go of our desires once asked. Let Universe do its task. We should not be concerned about how and when our desires would be manifested. Rather we should be alert enough to look at the opportunities and grab them when Universe gives us the signal, to reach our goal. For example, some one wants to marry but is not behaving like he/she is really ready for marriage then he/she would not be attracting marriage fast. He/she should be mentally prepared for the responsibilities that would come with the marriage and that mental preparation comes only when you behave that way. If you are in comfort zone, living with your parents and your parents are doing everything for you, etc. then it would be against the life which you would be living after marriage. You need to take responsibility of all work which you would be supposed to do after marriage, then only you are giving correct vibrations through your actions for manifesting your desires.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts Girgi!
Thank you for this excellent piece. Great timing.
Reading my mind, were you? Good timing. Thank you!
Not a mind reader here, but I am glad if it helped you somehow!
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Well said words…
Great post and perspective. Doing is evidence of our belief.
Indeed, we become what we do.
Perfectly well said, your master with your words