Get Rid of Negative Thoughts [The Definite Way]

Complaining is one of the most damaging habits we could acquire. It can become  chronic, and the negative effects are both emotional and physical. If we find ourselves complaining more often that what we should, it might be time to address this habit and find a way to stop complaining.

What makes chronic complaining even worse, is that many people don’t even realise they are chronic complainers, or even when they realise they are, they don’t think it’s a negative behaviour and is not categorised as negative thoughts.

Many people are concerned about getting rid of negative thoughts, but they often ignore that complaining about such thoughts it’s a great part of the problem. It’s not the same thing to ask yourself how to get rid of negative thoughts, than to think and talk all day long about how many negative thoughts you have throughout the day, or how helpless you feel about it.

Perhaps the most important step in quitting the habit of complaining is to disconnect the undesirable behaviour from your identity.  You are not a complainer, this is not part of your identity; it is simply a habit that you have unknowingly adopted. And as every habit, it can be modified or removed with the right tools and mindset.

Mental Conditioning

If we repeat the same thoughts over and over again, they will condition our mind to a large extent. If we complain about every single thing that comes into our awareness, this behaviour will influence other areas of our life. This is what causes that we mistakenly conclude we are complainers.

The food we eat has a great deal of importance about the way our body functions and looks; so it is accurate to say that our food conditions our bodies. Eventually, our bodies will crave for the kind of food we eat often, and mayor changes in our eating habits will have an impact on our well-being. When this happens, we tend to be dragged back to our previous behaviour.

But we know we won’t become the food we eat and we know we can change our eating habits anytime, as long as we put enough discipline on it.

This is why negative thinking is so addictive.  If you keep holding negative thoughts, you condition your mind to expect and even crave those continued inputs. And even when you acknowledge the need for a change about the way you see the world and your patterns of thought, chances are you will find resistances from your own mind.

Surrender

This is a self-perpetuating situation. Your negative experiences feed your negative expectations, which then attract new negative experiences. And before you know it, you are stuck.

Some people who enter this pattern never escape it. Being caught in a loop of negative thinking is a tough situation. How can you win a battle against your own mind? Often, guilt and shame is added to the equation, which makes things worse. Yes, it can get that bad, and anyone who have experiences a similar situation knows this too well.

For me, the only proven way to get out of this downward spiral, is as counterintuitive as effective: Surrender. You can’t fight against yourself. If beating yourself up for whatever its keeping you up at nights its gonna work, wouldn’t it have worked a long time ago?

Instead of resisting and fight negativity, acknowledge and accept its presence. This will raise your consciousness about your present situation, and will allow you to see alternatives and options you were unable to see before because you were too busy thinking and talking about how bad things are for you.

Allow to Overcome

The mind is like a hyperactive monkey.  The more you fight with the monkey, the more hyper it becomes.  So instead of beating yourself for not being able to get rid of negative thoughts, just relax and observe the monkey until it wears itself out.

Allow negativity to be and to exist within you. Don’t act against it; it won’t serve you any good anyway. Now you know that the existence of such thoughts in your mind don’t define you. Allow them to be, but don’t identify with them because those thoughts are not you.  Begin to interact with them like an observer.